We are doing a five-part series on 12 Ways to Build Your Husband’s Confidence. We are here, at the last post, on step 12 of 12. Thank you for joining us in this godly adventure. We have been receiving some really good stories on how we are building confidence in our husband’s. Hurrah for us! So proud of you. 💕 Tami

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YES, you can give your husband the advantage by building his confidence. One of the 12 ways you can build his confidence is through touch. God created humans with 5 senses; taste, smell, sight, hearing, and touch.  God put four of our 5 senses on our face and one of our senses mainly in our hands - touch. God gave you 3,000 touch receptors in your fingertips. Each touch receptors communicate directly to your brain to keep you healthy and safe.  

We are made by God to be touched so we can feel loved and cared for. The devil wants to destroy us and make us feel unloved, unwanted, and devalued. The devil hates God and wants to harm us because we are God’s children, the devil uses evil and wrong touching to bring us pain and shame. But God’s plan was to use touch to heal us in Matthew 14:36 BSB it says…  And all who touched Him were healed.  Touching your husband will build his confidence and help heal him. (Remember we married the person we believed could help heal us).  

Research tells us a man needs 7 to 10 touches a day for emotional and physical health. Every time you touch him he feels strong, it is soothing and it deepens his bonding with you. 

Increase Touch… Increase Connection.

7 Perfect Ways To Touch Him And Build His Confidence

1. In the morning touch his back (you can rub it or scratch it- if he is a bear-like my husband) and say I love you and you look really good. Don’t wait until you feel like doing it – do it before the feeling comes. If you are upset all the more reason to touch him. Do it by faith. Fake it and the feelings will come. One of my most loved scriptures is 2 Cor 10:6 We punish disobedience with obedience. We obey God and show love and kindness, putting dissenting (gossip, negativity & complaining) thoughts aside.

   This is one of my favorite things to do… not listen to the devil, not doing what he is telling me to do and then doing the opposite. So fun! Try touching him tomorrow morning in spite of how you feel. These morning touch moments will give your marriage the advantage, it will bring emotional connection, increases your happiness, and makes him feel confident. 

2. As you are leaving for work give him a long hug, make it a ritual to take two minutes to say goodbye with a hug, a smile, a slow dance while humming a tune, and add kind words like…I am praying you to have a prosperous day. Your morning touch stimulates the release of the "cuddle hormone," oxytocin, which enhances a sense of trust, safety, and attachment. Song 8:6 Close your heart to every love but mine; hold no one in your arms but me.

   You are meant to enjoy your marriage and make meaningful moments shared together. What secret moments do you share with your husband to build his confidence?

3. When he gets home make sure he comes looking for you to kiss. Always be in the habit of greeting him with a kiss, a tight squeeze on his buns, and say …let me tell you some good news?  Experts say, hugs have been shown to engage the vagus nerve, which connects your brain to your heart, lungs, and gut, and also helps regulate your nervous system. Stimulating it can slow your heart rate, lower your blood pressure, and reduce inflammation throughout your body. 3 John 2 Beloved friend, I pray that you are prospering in every way and that you continually enjoy good health, just as your soul is prospering. A prosperous, blessed, and confident man is greeted with kindness, love, and a kiss. 

4. At dinner time, before eating dinner take his hand say a prayer...thanking Jesus for this great man, who gave you a family and a home. Squeeze his hand or arm showing you support him, and say…I am on your team. The more touching the more successful your marriage is because touching strengthens your relationship making him feel loved, valued, and respected.  1 Peter 3 Wives respect and honor your husbands. 

5. Run an errand together or take a walk, put your arms around him or hold hands. Kiss in the car or under your favorite kissing tree, smile looking into his eyes, and say I am thankful for you and how you always…________.  Song 1:2 Your lips cover me with kisses…  Touching and kissing bring your husband out of isolation into the moment, enhancing cooperation and making him more likely to help out. It is a proven fact that a husband is more likely to say yes when a touch or kissing session accompanies a request.  

6. Watching TV rub his shoulder and say you did a good job today…________ and I am proud of you. Rub your hands above his knee, play with each of his fingers or toes. Times of touching have been shown to send a calming signal, lowering the level of the stress hormone cortisol causing you to relax, relieve anxiety, pain, and unhappiness. When we do this, touch tells his body it is safe, he will feel appreciated, understood, and cared for. Proverbs 11:25 …whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. 

7. Bedtime sexual touching under the covers. Bedtime touching will promote deeper, less disturbed sleep, reduce symptoms of depression and it will remove all the tension of the day. The average couple has sexual interludes three times per week. 1 Cor 7:5 says…So don't refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. A man who is fulfilled in the bedroom has high self-worth, self-esteem, and confidence. We can build our husband’s confidence by touching him. 

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The fact is the one initiating contact, will reap all the same benefits as those we're touching. You can't touch without being touched. Try today and every day the power of 7 touches and watch his confidence soar!